Pilates Imposter with Hannah Teutscher

Episode 29: 

 

The idea of imposter syndrome can feel intrusive and big. That feeling of shame, self-doubt, unworthiness, or that you are, in fact, unknowingly clueless. But is it possible, that some level of self-doubt is in essence, normal?

Perhaps because of our passionate drive surrounding what we do? Join Hannah as she unpacks imposter syndrome in Pilates as she delves into four categories or characterizations of imposter syndrome.

She looks at how reframing thoughts can help us navigate through these different feelings and she shares tips on how to do this. Hannah emphasises the importance of asking for help, finding a trusted mentor, and fighting your feelings with evidence!

And remember, you are not alone in this. Thanks for tuning in, enjoy!

Key Points From This Episode:

  • Diving deeper into what is meant by the phrase, imposter syndrome.
  • Normalising some level of imposter syndrome. 
  • A brief overview of the four categories of imposter syndrome.
  • Hannah unpacks how reframing can help us navigate these feelings of imposter syndrome.
  • She dives further into each category, highlighting key points and how to reframe. 
  • Don’t be afraid to get help in areas of your business where you don’t excel.
  • Finding a trusted person, a mentor, to articulate your journey with. 
  • Fighting your feelings with evidence. 
  • Final thoughts from Hannah on imposter syndrome in Pilates.

EPISODE 29

 

HT: That confidence to be able to say, “I don’t know that yet,” is your key to get out of that cycle. It is your key to say, “I don’t know that yet, but this is what I do know, so let’s go from here,” and be able to teach within the lane that you are confident in. That is a great place to break down those barriers.”

 

[INTRODUCTION]

 

[0:00:32] HT: Welcome. Stick around if you want to learn about the art and philosophy of beautiful movement mixed with evidence-based exercise science. We’ll be having tough and inspiring conversations with other coaches, experts, artists, and athletes. Our goal is to challenge myths, explore concepts, and engage in healthy debate as we dive deep with intrigue and curiosity. 

 

I’m your host, Hannah Teutscher. I’ve been teaching dance, Pilates, and Yoga for over two decades, and what I’ve learned is that movement can be the joy that integrates us all together. When we can trust and express ourselves through our bodies, we are unlimited in our ability to change ourselves and our communities for the better. 

 

We, as movement teachers and coaches, have the power to help people experience this for themselves. Okay everyone, let’s dive in. Exchanging ideas and changing people’s lives, one session at a time. This is The Pilates Exchange.

 

[INTERVIEW]

 

[0:01:29] HT: Hello my friends and welcome back to another Pilates Exchange. I was just thinking about my conversation with Natalie Wilson last week, and I wanted to just go a little bit deeper into some of the ideas that I brought up because it’s a concept that I’m talking about, with my trainers often. I think it’s going to be helpful for all of you guys as well to unpack a couple of ideas about imposter syndrome. 

 

Now we do talk about this quite a lot on a lot of different platforms that we have. I think it’s just really important because the idea of imposter syndrome is pretty big. I think we have a blanket term that we use all the time, but it’s this feeling of shame, self-doubt, feelings of like, you’re never good enough, maybe any day now they’re going to find out that I’m a fraud, or I have no idea what I’m doing. I want to just normalise some of this. Some level of self-doubt can be actually quite normal. I think it’s because we feel so passionately about what we do, in this case it’s teaching Pilates, or teaching any movement.

 

We are constantly worrying about not being good enough if we’re not measuring up, or feeling like we’re not competent enough. Maybe that worry should, well, there’s no real shoulds or shouldn’ts, but the worry is there because we love what we do and because we want to give our clients, give our students the very best of what we have.

 

I think that if we are struggling with it, there’s different types of imposter syndrome, maybe, or the way that I’m defining it. Again, I’m not a therapist. I don’t know. This is just what I see in my coaching and my mentoring. Let me just go through a couple of different ideas that I brought up last week and go into them how maybe we can reframe them, because a lot of it is just about reframing the experiences that we’re having, and that will help ease those feelings of shame, self-doubt, or feeling like we’re not good enough. See if you fit into any one of these categories. 

 

Okay, so I have the Pilates perfectionist. There’s four of them, the way that I’ve broken it down, but there’s a Pilates perfectionist, the Pilates expert, the Pilates genius, and the soloist. Sometimes vary between them, depending on where you’re at in your career. Maybe you identify with one a little bit more than another one. Let’s get into it.

 

Pilates perfectionist, for me, would be any slight error that you have in your teaching, whether it’s cueing, or structure, or you forgot to do the other side. Somehow, we’re really hard on ourselves, and we think, “Oh, my God. I’m a failure. I can’t do this job. It’s too much. We are exacting and perfectionist, maybe, in nature that way. So, those slight errors, then we’ll just make us crazy.

 

We have maybe the Pilates expert, and that would be a person who seeks to know absolutely everything before they even begin to teach, or before they take on any new challenge because they feel the lack of knowledge means that they’re a failure in some way, or means that they can’t even start. We have the Pilates genius. Maybe those people can meet expectations, and meet their own goals relatively quickly. Let’s say, we’ll put these Pilates geniuses in the, maybe they’re able to do advanced things, advanced exercises really well, quickly. But if they can’t do something physically, then they are ashamed. Maybe they feel that one exercise, or maybe they can’t do all of the exercises perfectly, but they feel like they should. This is maybe an area of the physical prowess of the person, the athleticism, the way that we put pressure on ourselves to be able to do every single thing perfectly. 

 

Then we have the soloist. This is one that maybe we’d see more in the business side of things. They have expectations of themselves to be able to do everything in their business. If they can’t, then they’re letting themselves down. That might be, maybe they feel pretty confident in teaching, but they don’t know how to do the bookkeeping, or maybe it’s social media, or maybe it’s the website. Because they can’t do all of those things, or maybe it’s pricing. I mean, there are a lot of different areas that we need to be good at and competent at in running a business. Maybe these soloists feel like if they don’t know how to do that from the get-go, or maybe it’s not a [particular] competence that they feel they excel at, then they are a failure in some way, or then they are the fraud, and that’s where that imposter side might come in.

 

I think that any one of us can swing between those four different ways. It’s not a bad thing. I just want to keep on reiterating that this feeling of imposter is because we care about what we do. I’m not sitting over here judging the experience. I think we often feel that at some point in our careers and different levels of it. It feels like it’s crippling. Maybe it’s time to seek outside help. That can come in the form of finding a mentor or doing a program with us, like Train the Trainers, we go pretty deep into this stuff. It might be that it’s leading to anxiety and depression, almost debilitating feelings of shame and unworthiness.

 

In that case, I would definitely say, seek out the help from a mental professional. I mean, that’s what they’re there for. They unpack those things. In the case of, I would say, the vast majority of us, this feeling of “imposter syndrome,” we’re going to cycle through a few times at various points in our careers.

 

The thing that helps me the most is reframing. When I’m talking about reframing, it is realising sort of, sometimes we get stuck in a thought pattern. It’s your thought pattern. Remember, thoughts are not things. Thoughts are floating ideas, and we can change what those are at any point. If we go wide lens and look at all four of these different Pilates imposter ideas, and give them a different framework, your brain a different framework to deal with that, let’s see if we can unpack enough of it so that you feel more comfortable.

 

The Pilates perfectionist, we’re going back to the one that any cueing error, or structure error, or maybe you forgot to do the other side of something. You have this beautiful sequence, and then you forgot to do an exercise. One of your clients says, “Hey, you know, Hanna, you forgot to do this one.” That might for some of us feel like, “Oh, shoot. I messed up so bad, I forgot to do this.” I have to say, I have been known to do it, because I get excited and I want to go on to the next thing. It’s occasional that we that we forget.

 

The client that says, “Hey, Hannah. You forgot this one.” It’s not because they are wanting to make fun of us at all. It’s because, maybe they love that exercise and they were looking forward to doing it on the other side. Maybe they’re just far along in their physical practice and it’s something that they know it’s going to be really good for them, because you’ve taught them that it’s going to be good for them.

 

Maybe that person that says, “Hey, you forgot it,” maybe they actually just like to see that you, the invincible Pilates teacher, are human. It doesn’t mean that if we make a mistake, like we make mistakes all the time. All the time. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. We don’t have to feel shame in there at all. Actually, we can normalise it by just saying, “Oh, yeah. Totally. I forgot. Thanks for reminding me.” Then just go on with it. Go do that exercise, or put it somewhere else. Maybe you have a mistake and you’re cueing. I’ve done some really funny ones. Stretch your legs over your head, instead of your arms. For a lot of people, that’s not going to be possible. Especially with Chris and I right now, we have multiple, or two languages that we’re that we’re teaching in and sometimes those classes are bilingual. 

 

Sometimes our cueing is right, left, down, and under. We don’t know what’s happening on a bad day. Knowing that that is totally normal, totally okay, and we could be – have a light-heartedness with it, because it’s not about perfect in any of those things. It’s about giving generously with the information that we have. So what if we make a little mistake here and there with our wording? It feels really horrible. You just say, “Oh, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to say that.”

 

I’ll tell you actually a funny one that was so embarrassing for me. I thought I was going to die from embarrassment, as far as perfectionist in cueing here. I was teaching a yoga class and I was going down the row and we were – I don’t even remember what we were working on, but there was breathing that was happening. I was going to say, take two big, beautiful breaths. Breaths. Okay, that was the word that I wanted to say. At that time, I was standing directly in front of a taller woman, lovely, beautiful woman, but I was standing right in front of her chest. I said instead, “Take two big, beautiful breasts.”

 

Okay, I could have died from shame and embarrassment. The whole class cracked up. I said, “I am so sorry. I’m so sorry. It was just piano. Just a slip of the tongue.” It was so humiliating in that moment, but then I went on with it. We had a good laugh about it, because it was a mistake. I said, “I’m sorry. Just came out.” Now, that’s what I’m talking about. The perfectionist in me would want to crawl up and never teach again. Knowing that we make mistakes, everyone laughed. Later after the class, we all talked about different, funny things that we’ve said and in just in our lives. It doesn’t have to be in teaching at all. But sometimes you just say things that are like, “Oh, my God. Why did I say that?” Then, it’s just the human way of being.

 

As far as the perfectionist part of it, we don’t need to be free of mistakes. We can’t be free of mistakes. None of us are perfect. What we can do is just say, normalise making mistakes, acknowledge that if we’ve made a little mistake and go on with it. Or, we could even just ignore, depending on what it is. You could just ignore it and go on. Sometimes we just make a funny little slip of the tongue and you just go on with it.

 

Our reframe here is that our students, our clients are not sitting there looking for us to make a mistake on our cueing, or in our structure, or – They’re looking for an experience of being in their bodies. That’s why they’re there with you. They are worried so much more about themselves. They’re really not thinking about you. They’re thinking about themselves. They want to work hard for themselves. They also want to please you as the teacher. It has nothing to do with your cues, your structures. I hope that one helps a little bit.

 

Let’s go into the Pilates expert. The way that I was defining it was, that these are people that seek to know absolutely everything before they begin. Even though in the face of lacking a tiny bit of knowledge, they feel like they’re a total failure. I would like to ease that also in a reframe of it is literally, and I don’t use that word very often, but it is literally impossible for you to know everything before you – even those of us who have taught a few decades, we don’t know everything.

 

That’s why continuing education is always important and interesting. It’s because we would like to continue down that path. But you will only learn by doing. You need to get in there and be challenged. Without that challenge, you don’t know where to learn. Even the best doctors. I mean, think about it. You don’t want to go to a doctor that thinks that they know everything. You want to go to a doctor that says, “Hey, I have a hunch. Let’s go get some tests done. Let me go chat with a few other doctors who are more into whatever field it is that they need to help you with.” Then they collaborate and then they come back to you. Then they lead you on a path of diagnosis, or a path of health, right?

 

Even a doctor who has a crazy amount of education cannot know everything. They can’t. If there is a doctor out there that thinks that they do, run from that doctor. That would be scary to me if there’s a person that assumes that they know everything. What is good, though, is if we go in and we say, “This is the information I have. I’m going to teach from this.” If we have opportunities or say we have challenges, that you get to a situation and you don’t know what the answer is, then a reframe is just to say, “Hey, I don’t know that yet. Let me find out for you. I’ll get back to you.”

 

It could be, that someone comes in with a different injury, or a diagnosis that you don’t know how to work with, you can feel free to say, “Hey, I haven’t had this experience before. I don’t feel comfortable yet working with you. Let me just check out and make sure that I have the right information.” That’s it. That client isn’t going to run away from you. That client is going to say, “Oh, that’s amazing. They care about me. They care about my needs.” They’re going to have even more respect for you, because you took the time and the caring to say, “I don’t know yet.”

 

That maturity to be able to say – or, maybe it’s not maturity. That confidence to be able to say, “I don’t know that yet,” is your key to get out of that cycle. It is your key to say, “I don’t know that yet, but this is what I do know. So, let’s go from here.” Be able to teach within the lane that you are confident in. That is a great place to break down those barriers. The thought that you need to know everything is just that. Is just a thought. There are no expectations from any of us professionals out there. There are no expectations from any of the students that are coming in for you to know absolutely everything. That’s a thought that you’re holding on to you that delays you to start doing something.

 

It delays you from having to get uncomfortable in the grey zone. The majority of our lives are going to be in that grey zone. That leaning into the discomfort of that grey area of learning, of growth, that is a beautiful place to be, because we’re going to always be updating the information that we have. We’re always going to be seeking out, hopefully, something more as we grow as teachers.

 

I’m a different teacher than when I was 20 years ago, starting out, or even longer ago. The only standard that I can hold myself to is one that I’m continuously on a growth path. I’ll update the information that I have. As soon as I know something new, then I do better with that new information. That really helps me let go of that expert imposter feeling.

 

We also have a concept that I would call the Pilates genius. These are people that maybe feel they need to do all of the advanced exercises. In the case of yoga, advanced postures. If they can’t, they feel like they shouldn’t be teaching. There are even some teacher training programs that instill this thinking that’s baked right into their teacher training. I would say, that is absolute BS, as far as the teaching organisations that are doing it. You don’t need to be able to do everything. You need to be able to teach. That is a way different thing.

 

I would rather have someone be able to teach me how to do something than having to get up and show me how to do something. I would love to be able to rely on someone’s eyes and understanding of how to cue something, tell me what I’m doing wrong, then getting up and doing it. I used to have this ballet teacher in Montreal, Mr. [inaudible 0:20:06]. He was a fantastic teacher. He was an older guy by the time I met him. I’m sure by now, he’s probably passed. I don’t think I saw him ever out of his chair. He sat there the whole day. He literally did not move. I’m sure he could have danced, but he never showed anything. He said what he wanted. He was able to say it clearly. That’s a skill set that I would put more value on that, than being able for him to get up and do whatever it was as this little, old man. Maybe he could have before. Maybe not, I’ll never know.

 

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[EPISODE CONTINUED]

 

[0:21:37] HT: Jumping up onto a reformer and doing a backbend series, or whatever, your clients, they don’t really care, I think. Maybe there’s the odd one or two, but it’s more about you being able to understand the mechanics of that, understand the – not of doing the backbend, but just understanding the mechanics of the exercise that you’re teaching, able to cue it clearly so that your person can efficiently do the movement. Then maybe we get into some more authenticity in the way that you’re cueing it. Maybe you would like to add some more layers of cues so that they can have a different level of experience while performing the exercise.

 

That’s all going to come down to your imagination of how that movement can feel for that person. Those types of skills aren’t really relying on your ability to do the thing. We could do a variation of the thing. There are some exercises that I will never be able to do again because of my hip prosthesis, and that’s okay. There are some exercises that I can never do. I was always when I go back to dance all the time with me, but I was always a crappy turner. I just had terrible pirouettes, but I could teach them very well. I can’t do them, but I could teach them because I have a really good eye to see what’s going on in a person’s body. That’s way more important in our field of teaching.

 

Again, so the reframe here is what’s the skill set that your students are looking for? They’re looking not for you to be – they’re not looking for a television show. They’re not looking for you to show them all the movements. They’re looking for them to experience the movements in their own body. What can we do to help facilitate the experience in your student’s body? What can we do to help them understand the mechanics? That would be great teaching. That’s a wonderful way to dismantle maybe the Pilates genius part of it. “I mean, I’m great at all these exercises. I could do all the –” No one cares. Maybe for Instagram, a couple of fancy exercises are nice, or not.

 

The other thing is that if you’re on there all the time, or you see the people that are doing all the advanced stuff, that could be so intimidating for people that they actually don’t even want to start training in Pilates, because it’s just too scary to think, “Oh, now I’m going to have to do this and this.” Maybe people are running away from that. Maybe your lack of ability to do some of the fancy Instagram moves. Maybe that’s your superpower. Maybe that’s what makes you relatable. Maybe that’s what makes people want to work with you, because they can see themselves in you. I think that is an awesome reframe. There’s much more need for that. There’s much more need for exercises that are simple, clear, and fitness-oriented that are going to help people with their day-to-day lives, health, and functional work, instead of fancy hanging exercises.

 

I mean, those are fun, but that’s like icing on the cake. No one really cares. They care about, “Can you take the pain out of my body? Can you help me sleep better? Can I pick up my kids? Can I –” All of those things. That’s what people care about. Not the fancy stuff. There’s absolutely no need to feel shame in not being able to do a couple of exercises. If you feel like you can’t do them, or you’re uncomfortable teaching them, just don’t teach them. Don’t put them in the repertoire of exercises that you pull from. There’s no problem erasing a couple of those from that repertoire. You can just be honest with that. Say, “Hey, this is not part of the exercises that I feel comfortable teaching, so we’re not going to do those. Here’s an exercise that has the same effect. We’ll do that one.” I’m giving you permission to do that. I am giving you permission. If that’s what you needed, here it is.

 

We also have here the soloist. Now, this is one that is not going to be for – maybe not everyone’s going to relate to this one. I’m thinking this more on the business side of things. The imposter soloist syndrome here is that we have to be able to do everything in all aspects of our Pilates businesses. If we can’t, or don’t know how, in some way, we’re a failure. In some way, we throw it all in the bucket. “I’m done. I just can’t do this anymore.” Now, I would like to counter that to say, again, we can’t be an expert in everything.

 

As long as you are good at teaching and you’re that’s where your passion lies, then there’s a million different ways for you to get help in the areas of your business that you are not yet good at. Maybe you don’t want to be good in those things. Maybe it’s just going to take a little bit too much time to excel in those areas. That’s why you get other people to help you. There is no shame to be able to say, “Hey, I hate social media. What are we doing over here? How do I market my business a different way?” There’s some people that love doing that.

 

We’re going to have to search out. A little bit is letting go of control, right? We’re going to have to let go a little bit of control and ask for help somewhere else. Because it’s, again, it’s impossible to know everything. Maybe it’s about bookkeeping. Maybe there is some fear about the numbers, or writing a business plan, or understanding your KPIs, your key performance indicators. Maybe you don’t really get what that means. Okay, then seek someone else. Seek someone out who can help you in there.

 

Life is too short to be worried about those things. You might be, by not asking for help in those areas, you might be really limiting your financial success and your business success. That’s one thing. Or you might be limiting your reach. That’s not good, because our reach, meaning not just the eyes on your brand, or on your business, or on your teaching, but your actual students. You’re in this to help people, right? You are teaching, because you love to give your knowledge to people and help them have greater experiences in their bodies. Again, maybe it’s about being pain-free. Maybe it’s about being confident in their bodies, or enjoying where they’re at. If we don’t yet have the skill set to, say, market our business, then we’re missing out on being able to help people. That’s not something we want to do.

 

We want to get out there. We want to explore our options. You cannot know everything about your business. I have mentors. It may seem that I have everything together, or it may not seem, I don’t know. But all of us have mentors. I’ve been teaching for a long time and I have business mentors. I have people that I regularly ask for help in different areas, help with different clients sometimes. If I come up in a situation that I don’t yet know how to handle, I have to learn about doing that. It helps with learning automation. There are so many different things.

 

We have a big business over here. Well, maybe not so big, but a business that has a lot of different moving parts. We have a physical studio, and that comes with its own skill set. We have an online studio. We have an online membership. We have our courses, our teacher trainings, all of those types of things. Retreats. Each one of those has a lot of learning that needs to happen. I cannot expect myself to know everything all the time. No. I got to know where to ask questions. Who’s going to be my mentor in this area? Then I go and I ask and I receive help. Because if I were to do this all alone, not only is that lonely, but the expectations that I’m putting on myself would just be paralysing.

 

I assure you that any of those big names out there – I don’t include my name as one of those big names, but I’m talking about all of those big, famous people that are in the Pilates and the yoga world, or fitness world, they’ve got a team of people that are helping them. They’ve got assistance. They’ve done different coaching programs, mentoring programs, and stuff, because that’s what we do to get better at our jobs. 

 

You don’t have to know how to do all of it. Not all of it has to be comfortable. You don’t have to like doing it, all of it either. You give up the work that you don’t like to do, or you don’t feel that you excel at. You do the stuff that you’re great at. I think that helps reframing in the imposter syndrome.

 

I want to just round this out. Maybe imposter syndrome, whatever one you are, or specifically, Pilates imposter syndrome, whatever one that is, maybe it’s any one of those four character types, maybe it’s just feeling a little bit of lack of self-confidence, or sensitivity to the small mistakes, fear of failing your team, or maybe it’s all of them are combined together and you’re just feeling you’re burned out from working too hard on all of these. I mean, the thing is that you’re not alone. These are feelings that sometimes we cycle through. It’s not just when you’re new to teaching. It’s also some of us that have been around for a longer time.

 

It’s again, because you love your job and you want to do good at your job, but the reframe is what’s important. Sometimes we have to reframe by finding a mentor, finding someone who can help you, in your personal situation, and highlight what your superpowers are. I was recently speaking with a lovely woman about how she felt, specifically because her teacher training program was being really bullying. I find it bullying. I just wanted to remind her, and I did remind her that she is already a fantastic teacher, because she has children. She knows how to nurture. She knows how to teach. She loves teaching her kids. Because of that, that is her superpower.

 

She doesn’t need to be bullied by a teacher training program that she’s not yet a teacher. She is the teacher already. Sometimes it is finding the mentor to be able to help you celebrate the wins, or not even celebrating, finding what those superpowers are for you. Maybe we need to celebrate the wins that you have already accomplished. Maybe it’s the, if you have one client, let’s celebrate that. If you have 10 students, awesome. Let’s celebrate that. You taught your first class, then let’s celebrate that. Celebrating the little things along the way of your Pilates path as a teacher, that’s important. That’s really important for us to understand the growth that we’re making, because it’s a long line of growth. There’s never going to be an, “Aha, I’ve made it. Aha, I feel like a wonderful teacher.” We’re all in the continuum of there.

 

Stopping for a moment to realise what you’ve already accomplished helps us refocus on also, where we want to go. Sometimes we’re going to have to share that we’re feeling a little bit, say, unsure, or unsteady. Sharing it with someone helps articulate what that fear is. What is that feeling? Maybe it’s not a fear. Maybe it’s a feeling. Maybe it’s a, who knows? Maybe it’s the feeling of shame. Maybe it’s and, and, and. Who knows what that is?

 

By you having to articulate it to someone else, a trusted person, mind you, a trusted person, helps you reframe it. Because once it’s coming out of your mouth, maybe you see a different perspective of what you’re saying. Maybe that trusted, or mentor can help you reframe it in a way that eases some of those feelings. I think that by acknowledging those feelings, helps you release it. It helps you let go of that. Because just like thoughts, thoughts are not things. Thoughts are the way that you are conjuring a situation. You can always change your thoughts.

 

Feelings will come and go. Once we release those feelings, they have the tendency to fade. Something else will come in. Feelings don’t generally last that long. Maybe if you’re really, really mindful of those feelings, maybe it’ll last a couple of minutes before you’re onto something else. Maybe you cycle back to a feeling, but in general, feelings have a short cycle of time. Acknowledging, releasing those feelings and they’ll come and go and that it’s a wave. It’s not going to be like, you’re stuck there the whole time. Sometimes we’re going to have to fight those feelings with evidence.

 

If you’re saying, “Ah, I’m not good enough, whatever,” well, what is the evidence that you are not good enough? Show me. Because in there, you’d probably be hard-pressed to find evidence that you’re not good enough. More than likely, that evidence would be a story that you are making about someone else’s experience. For example, “I’m not a good teacher. When I’m teaching, everyone is looking at me and their faces are scowling and that means I’m not good.” Well, that’s not evidence. That is maybe a story about what they could be feeling, what your students could be feeling.

 

It could be so far from the truth, because you do not know for sure what anyone else is feeling, unless they tell you that. Maybe you’re a teacher in the class and you’re feeling off, because you’re getting some facial feedback from someone and really what it is, is that they are concentrating on what you’re saying. Maybe they are concentrating on their body. Maybe they had a crappy day and then they came to class and you’re helping them feel better.

 

Some of the evidence from the mentoring that I’m doing with people when we’re going deep into the imposter syndrome is the evidence that they’re bringing. It’s based on a story that we’re telling about someone else’s experience, and it is not what the reality is, because as I said before, we don’t know what their reality is unless we ask them. Again, I think it’s focusing on the facts that are actually on hand and reframing. Sometimes we just need to acknowledge that we’re feeling a little uncomfortable on that day, get validated, and just let it go.

 

Just naming it, “Hey, I’m feeling a little of this,” helps you get control of those feelings, and validate the feeling. Is it something that you really need to work on, or is it just a little bit of self-doubt? The feelings are real, but a lot of is just in our own head. Then that means, we got to move on with it, move on with your day.

 

I’m going to wrap up this imposter syndrome Pilates podcast with, you are not alone. A lot of us go through it. We cycle through it in different ways. It is normal to have a little bit of nerves and excitement and, yeah, caring that we want. You could give yourself permission to have a growth mindset. If you haven’t listened to my podcast about that, or maybe check out, I will put that in the show notes, because that is a great way to also reframe and find a different perspective in there. You’re doing great. Reach out to me. I’d love to hear your thoughts and have a wonderful day.

 

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